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Posted by Dr. Beverlee
on April 03, 2006 at 08:28:54:
Date: March 2006 To:askdrbeverlee@yahoo.com Dear Doctor Beverlee,
When you say, “involved with porn” I am unclear what you mean – on the Internet watching, or are you participating? If you are watching, and cannot stop, then you need support from those you trust. At age 13 many things become confusing. You are asking questions about rules, values, appropriate behavior, discipline, feelings which may be all over the map, and much more. It is normal to question all of this. Finding the answers and solving the problems of these teen years is a challenge. Because you wrote to me I can say that you are appropriately asking for help. The Yin: If you can share information and trust your parents, they could be your best source of help. Talking to a professional counselor sounds to me like a good pan. Ask your parents for this help. If they aren’t supportive of you as a person, then speak to a school counselor and ask for a professional therapist who can work with you as a guide and mentor. The Yang: All too often we believe those around us cannot not understand that we are struggling to respect our self, to believe that we are worthy. Do not allow yourself to become isolated from all the people you mention. Everyone needs support to b their best self. Some of those friends, family, etc can be there for you in a way that may surprise you. No one who loves you will want you to be hurt. If you are participating in porn, the danger for you is very great - you need even more help and must seek help immediately. Feel free to write again. |