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Posted by Dr. Beverlee
on August 02, 2003 at 20:46:11:
Although many differences occur between people putting their lives’ together, the least important may be age. Sharing a life is like a picnic where each of us brings different dishes to the table, knowing the different ingredients need to compliment each other. If the values, standards, and beliefs about finances, intimacy, work, family, religion, leisure time, etc are very different, then each person will be pushed to accept, on a daily basis, a life style that is different and potentially unhappy. Returning to our picnic; on the other hand sitting on the warm sand on a sunny day with a cool breeze at your back you both take out the diverse packages of deliciously prepared foods that all contribute to the makings of a wonderful picnic. Isn’t life similar? The Yin: Check out your dissimilar and complimentary life styles and beliefs. In what areas will you need to create compromise, and can both adapt to the differences. If the answer is yes, then enjoy the picnic, taste your new life together with hope and joy. Go for it! The Yang: Remember Supreme Court Justice Douglas who in his 80’s had a new young bride who could not keep up with his active, vital love of climbing and hiking in the mountains. We are what we believe we are. It would be helpful to remember that red wines are best tasted after aging, the whites when they are young and fresh. Put aside the “old geezer/babe” view. Climb the mountain hand in hand, smell the fresh air, lay out the blanket, savor the different wines of life, and enjoy a fabulous picnic together in a bed of wild flowers. Wishing you the best. |